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Stella Flattery
Clinical Social Worker and Therapist

Hi, I’m Stella, and I am a registered Clinical Social Worker and Therapist specialising in trauma, addiction, and relationship difficulties. If you have found yourself struggling with any of these, I am here to help you. People work with me when they want to experience positive changes in how they think about themselves, their behaviours, and their relationships. I am especially dedicated to helping those who have survived trauma or negative life experiences, and want to work together on a programme of deep inner emotional work, uncovering the source of pain and healing core emotional wounds.

 

I understand that making this first step takes a lot of courage. Well done on getting yourself this far – you must be brave, resilient and resourceful! I am trauma-informed and work with you towards meeting your goals in a gentle and supportive way. Moving at your pace, I bring the expertise of clinical best practices, and you bring the aspects of your life you want to improve. You are always in charge of the process.

From our sessions, you can expect to:
•            Understand why you think and feel the way you do
•            Understand why you react to certain triggers in the way you do
•            Stop using addictive behaviour as a coping mechanism
•            Heal from trauma and past emotional pain
•            End self-destructive patterns
•            Identify relationships that are destructive and move out of them
•            Learn to love yourself as part of a healthy intimate relationship

People who work with me see improvements in various aspects of their lives, but most specifically they report feeling less reactive and more calm, more secure in relationships, and having better self-esteem. They have stopped, or are on the road to stopping, behaviours that have been self-destructive in the past.

I’m friendly and knowledgeable, and I offer a safe and empathetic space. I will always be open-minded and non-judgmental with you. I lead with openness and compassion in my own life, and I offer that in sessions to my clients too. My number one motivator for working in this field is to help clients understand why they feel they way they do, and support them to move forward and heal in a way that feels helpful and supportive to them.

Although it’s not exhaustive, below I’ve listed some of the main issues my clients’ face that may resonate with you.

Addiction

Are you are using unhealthy coping mechanisms (e.g. drinking, smoking, eating, drug use, pornography, social media) that you want to
stop? Do you ever have compulsive urges to carry out this behaviour and does this urge ever overpower your desire to stop?

Trauma

Have situations in the past made lasting, unhelpful impressions on how you operate in the world today? For example, has an unhealthy past
relationship made you untrusting of new people? Have you been victim of an abusive relationship?

Childhood trauma

Has neglect or abuse in childhood affected how you feel about yourself and others today? Do you remember feeling unimportant or unsafe as a child?
Do you often feel unsafe, scanning for danger? Are you often sceptical about the intentions of others? Do you chronically feel unwanted or unloved?

PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder)

Do you ever have flashbacks, nightmares, or intrusive thoughts about something that terrified you in the past? If so, does it feel like you are reliving the negative experience again when you’re triggered?

Romantic difficulties

Do you find yourself continually attracted to emotionally unavailable partners? Do you have difficulty feeling truly connected to your partner?
Do you sometimes feel anxious or insecure in your relationships, or like there is something 'wrong' with you?

Relationship difficulties

Do you struggle with communicating your wants, needs, and desires in a way that is clear, calm, and assertive? Are you often worried about what others think of you? Are your relationships sometimes ambiguous, chaotic or intense?

Emotional instability

Does it ever feel like you are at the mercy of your strong emotions? Do you sometimes later regret the actions you took at the time, and wish you had a better handle on your emotions?

Negative core beliefs

Are beliefs like 'I'm not worthy', 'I'm unlovable', 'I'm not good enough', or 'I'm a failure' an issue for you and negatively affecting your life?

If you’d like to find out more about me and how I can help you, click the ‘Approach’ tab for more details.

I graduated from Trinity College Dublin with my Masters in Social Work (MSW) in 2017, focusing on clinical work for those with mental health difficulties. After graduation, I began my career as a therapist in Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services (CAMHS). This role sparked what later became a deep understanding of the impact our childhood experiences have on our lifelong wellbeing and functioning. I then moved to Thailand to work in one of Asia’s most respected and renowned addiction rehabilitation centres as a part of their trauma-informed therapy team. Here, we treated addiction and other mental health issues using a holistic framework, integrating Eastern practices with traditional Western therapy. In addition to general counselling and psychotherapy, I offer clients two specific healing modalities in which I’ve completed advance and specilised training:

 

  • EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing therapy)

    EMDR is an evidence-based and clinically proven treatment that allows you to safely process and resolve negative experiences from the past, change negative core beliefs about yourself, and create positive mental resources to use in the future. It is the recommended treatment for trauma and PTSD, and is also used to treat other issues like anxiety, panic, depression, addiction and eating disorders.

 

  • DBT (Dialectical Behavioural Therapy)

    DBT is a skills-based therapy that empowers you to address emotional challenges and unhelpful behaviours. After learning the skills, you practice using them in different aspects of your life outside the therapy room. Research shows it to be particularly effective for those who struggle with managing intense emotions and behaviour.